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You can’t deny it hasn’t been difficult. Watching couples giggle and cuddle as they strolled hand in hand through the streets. It’s enough to make you gag! Now it’s time to wipe away those tears chica, put down that box of chocolate goodies and start making your way to a safe and healthy recovery. Spring is the perfect time to get started, nature is re-awakening and flowers are abloom. During this particular season people usually want a fresh start, so they clean and renovate their homes by throwing away unwanted items and clearing space. What you will embark on is another type of Spring Cleaning, so take a hint from Mother Nature and revitalize yourself!

• Step 1. Acknowledge That It Is Over. Firstly you must tell yourself that you will get over this, you must believe that you will pull through. Learn to accept that he was once apart of your life and if you really did care for him, he will have a place in your heart. With that said, that does NOT mean that you will be taking him back or that you will feel guilty for getting over him. What it does mean is that you will one day thank him for making you into a stronger person and for allowing room for someone new to love you. To love is to grow emotionally and you shouldn’t shut yourself out to the world because of a few bad apples. Now that you’ve past the hardest step in climbing out of the dark tunnel, the rest should come natural. That is, if you’ve come to honest terms with yourself. If you have not, please repeat step one.
• Step 2. Start Cleaning. Remove every item in your home (or room) that reminds you of him. The less you see these mementos, the less you’ll think of him. The process of cleaning actually distracts your mind for a while. You’ll end up with a healthy environment and a healthy mind.
• Step 3. Stop Calling. Don’t forget to remove his name from your speed dial! We know how many times you’ve stared at his name in your phone, slipped and dialed his number only to hang up and feel angry all over again. Don’t email him any nasty letters either; it just makes you look desperate. You don’t really need any more drama.
• Step 4a. Smell The Roses (literally). Reserve some alone time for yourself. Take a long relaxing walk or jog while listening to your favorite tunes, minus the tracks that make you think of him. Pick or buy some flowers along the way. The splendor of the intricate flowers and roses will remind you that you too are one of nature’s beauties. Who says you needed him to buy you fresh flowers anyway?
• Step 4b. Work It Out! A good workout can have you sweating out the stress in no time. You’ll feel good about yourself after you’ve exercised your body. Perhaps you can take a kickboxing class for high energy or maybe a yoga class to mellow out. After you see the results of your dedication, you’ll be motivated to move on.
• Step 5. Talk To Your Buds. I know you hate crying to your girls each and every time you are heartbroken. You feel a little dependant on their consolations. Yet this is the best way to let it all out because it’s not healthy to keep your emotions locked up. If you have a few good friends that are willing to hear your sob story time after time, let them listen. After you are finished talking, be open to constructive criticism and be mindful of their advice.
• Step 6. Be One With Yourself. This will take some time after you’ve completed the last five steps. I know it sounds cheesy and maybe a little depressing, but try catching the latest flick alone or visit your favorite spa. Once you begin enjoying some activities by yourself, you’ll never depend on anyone else to enjoy an outing. You may even discover that you have neglected yourself in the process of trying to pick up the pieces of a failed relationship. Once you’re self-reliant, things will begin to fall into place, you’ll start to notice that the world around you hasn’t fallen apart.

Finally, you can CELEBRATE!

It’s time for you to get glam and enjoy a night out perhaps with your buds or maybe a new date! Take a night out and let it all out, get gorgeous and get set to party. If you’ve followed the steps correctly, you won’t just be celebrating because the relationship is over, you’ll be celebrating because you believed in You!